Kendrick Lamar Preferring ‘Natural’ Women Isn’t Wrong, But The Way He Said It Is
Kendrick Lamars new single, Humble, is getting a lot of backlash.
If were strictly talking personal opinion, the video wasntexactly offensive, nor was itworth getting particularly charged upfor, either.
So, will I be sending any angryposts over social criticizing Kendrick any time soon? Over these three lines?
Im so fuckin sick and tired of the Photoshop
Show me somethin natural like afro on Richard Pryor
Show me somethin natural like ass with some stretch marks
Nah, its just not that deep.
But again, thats a personal opinion, and personal opinions are just that: personal andinformed by the places we come from.
My opinioncomes from a young black male, who hasnt been impacted by societys standards of beauty during his adult life.
So yeah, Im more inclined to receive the video as a fire piece of work, like many others are.
But theres a big difference between the saying Im not personally offended by the video, and saying, I cant believe there are people who are actually offended.
Going all in with the latter argument would require a total ignorance of the different places other people might come from on the subject.
Itd also require being totally oblivious about a fact that should be pretty obvious by now: A person discussing their preference on womens beauty standards israrely ever received as justpreferences.
This is especially true whenthose preferences are compared to other types of behaviors.
Weve seen this enough times by know to know how this should work.
Ayesha Curry was just talking about how she likes to dress when she talked about covering up.
And men were just talking about wanting a modest women when the phrase get you an Ayesha Curry was popularized.
Next thing you know, the phrase was turned into a weapon to bash other women when they were deemed indecent, like Kehlani during that infamous episode involving Kyrie Irving.
Prompting the creation of a trendy slogan for trolls wasnt Currys intention. But sheinvited a twisting of her words by prefacing her statement about how she prefers to dress by referencing people barely wearing clothes.
Likewise, Kendrick Lamar may just be talking about how he likes stretch marks and natural hair, but by prefacing his assertion by saying hes sick and tired of the Photoshop (in a song repeating the words bitch, be humble, no less), guess who hes invited his lyrics to be used against?
Women who dont stick to a natural look.
The framing of these personal preferences is just one reason for someone to either take exception to Kendricks video or comment on why it could be problematic.
There are bound to be other reasons, too.
Why? Because discussing what makes women beautiful is a complicated task that, when not handled delicately, can prompt anger.
More importantly, the reasonsfor that anger are easy to understand, even when the anger is not shared.
To say otherwise would require ignoring the obvious about how womens beauty standards are discussed and the different ways those discussions impact people.